Nala’s whisper

Not everyone is into this and I don’t blame them.

1. You look so desperate.

2. its not easy to get along with strangers

3. its forced and its not a calling from what is supposed to happen

4. it forces two people to make it work instead of naturally making it work

These are all true anyways..these are the usual discomforts any two people in a blind date go through…

This did not stop me though.

Honestly, for any girl in sweet pursuit of having a partner and finding their soul mate..this looks like a good idea.

Imagine this, a close friend recommending someone from their own world to you.. wouldn’t that be better than getting to be approached by random stranger in your area? Most probably your friend knows you and would most probably have an idea what works for you. A friend would not recommend you to some big time player and heart breaker. So there, what’s wrong with a friend recommending you to a friend who just happens to be someone you don’t know?

Ahhh…i think that the worst part in doing blind dates is that you subject your heart to it as if you really wanted it so bad…its close to the icky reputation of being desperate. If that’s what most girls think about blind dates, then i cannot solve that.

Here’s my take though…I’m not desperate..I’m just honest that its hard to find someone who you like and likes you back. I’m also just honest that I want to have a family in the future and if you want that, you accept offered opportunities that can make that future happen.

If single girls just get over what other people may think and be honest to themselves, they might just be able use all venues to get their mr. right straight to them.

I’m not the best preacher for blind dates because i never had a success story.  Even so there were pluses…

1. I get to appreciate friends recommending their close friends to me…it just make me recommendable and i appreciates friends who introduce me to amazing men. 

2. I get to practice how to interact with men and being exposed to different kinds of conversation from politics, ecology, debates and different perspective in life.

3. I get to get to know my close friends better because of their friends.

4. I get to know my interests better and most importantly, i get to know myself better.  In fact, my idea of a partner changes as I get to understand men more in a dating scenario. I initially thought I fit older men…30s kind..i changed my mind, im too immature and crazy for them.

I’m not sure where this will take me..I can get my heart broken one day because of these. For now, it looks like the pluses definitely outweighs the discomforts and hesitations….and most importantly, risks may one day be worth it.

There’s lots of single friends in my life right now….all say NO to blind dates…  I see that just like videoke..no one wants to sing first but when some people get the hang of it and loosens up, people will just pile up and fall in line to sing their crazy heart out.